Without much ado, it’s day one on FOREPLAY’s blog and so I’m excited to be interacting with all of you in a new way! I’ve been thinking about some couples who seemed to think their lives were hopelessly disconnected and sex was dead. But there were reasons, patterns that we discovered together. I could see a path from one to the other and today – one of them could too. It felt like a miracle that what had been impossible in the beginning, had a logic that they could understand and indeed, fix. My biggest encouragement for you is – there’s a path, your partner is not your enemy but is lonely and wishing to see a way through. Hang in there – don’t give up. Great sex and long love can be yours – do what it takes!
Premature ejaculation; it’s a terrific shame for young men. But as I listen to them, what I think is a shame, is no one helped them early. First off, no one told them – uhh, it’s going to happen your first time. Yep! For every guy. That’s normal. – Imagine all the excitement and nervousness of your first time, you should just go for broke and learn not expect anything else from your body (do expect to give later to give to your partner so she’s happy too!) A third of young men have PE because mostly, they have never gotten over feeling bad about the first time it happened So, what to do? Ask your partner to just massage your whole body. Do lots of starting and stopping so you can learn about different points of excitement. Separate orgasms rule! Her, then you. Or you, then her. Don’t withdraw in shame – tell her, “you’re so sexy, I just couldn’t help myself.” PS – easiest fix in sex therapy!
Here are the top 10 podcasts of 2016:
10 Episode 38: Am I doing it right?
9 Episode 14: Variety
8 Episode 36: Masturbation
7 Episode 44: Seduce Her
6 Episode 6: Boobs, Butts, and Bulges
5 Episode 3: Go Oral or Go Home
4 Episode 35: Five Mistakes Men Make in Bed
3 Episode 1: Her Big O
2 Episode 34: The Five Mistakes Women Make in Bed
1 Episode 24: Cunnilingus — How to please her