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George Faller [00:00:30]:
It’s summertime in the city. Let’s talk about getting in the mood. Laurie it’s that time of year.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:00:40]:
I love summer. Summer and sex go together. Let’s talk. Welcome to Foreplay sex therapy. I’m Dr. Laurie Watson, your sex therapist.

George Faller [00:00:52]:
And I’m George Faller, your couples therapist.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:00:55]:
We are here to talk about sex.

George Faller [00:00:57]:
Our mission is to help couples talk about sex in ways that incorporate their body, their mind, and their hearts.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:01:05]:
And we have a little bit of fun doing it, right G?

George Faller [00:01:08]:
Listen, and let’s change some relationships. Summer and sex go together. I like it.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:01:14]:
They do, don’t they? I mean, there’s. There’s more light. You know, we have more daytime, and that always puts everybody in a good mood.

George Faller [00:01:23]:
It’s better math, right? We have more light, we have less work, we have more sun. It just feels like there’s more opportunities.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:01:32]:
I know when I’m coming home from work and it’s still light out, it’s like, oh, you know, I have all this time to go home and connect with my husband and have dinner and go for a walk, and it’s like suddenly, you know, the world is still before me after a full day. So it just puts me in a great mood.

George Faller [00:01:53]:
Part two of your day. During the winter, you just kind of come home, you eat, and you just go to sleep. It’s like the day is over. It’s. The summertime is like. We got part two.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:02:02]:
Yeah, exactly, part two. And we know that, you know, getting sunlight actually raises our serotonin, which impacts our brain and makes us feel better. You know, there’s also research, just for the record, on getting morning light. I don’t know if you know that, but I walk early in the morning to make sure that I get morning light in my eyes, you know, and that it. It actually does impact my mood. It makes me feel better, and it reduces anxiety. It’s. It’s a good way.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:02:29]:
But also that evening light, that same low light on the horizon, getting that, in our eyes, also raises serotonin. So get out there, people, before you have sex. Go for a walk. Which, that. That brings me to another little point. If we. There’s more exercise during the summer, right? We’re outdoors, we feel like we can ex. Go for a walk, we can go for a run, we can play outside and exercise 30 minutes, George.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:02:58]:
After we exercise, it actually makes arousal easier.

George Faller [00:03:03]:
Ew.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:03:04]:
I know, I know. My husband and I tested that the other day just to make sure. Just to make sure the research was correct.

George Faller [00:03:13]:
Research is verified, people.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:03:15]:
Research is verified for sure.

George Faller [00:03:18]:
Stamp of approval by Dr. Laurie Watson.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:03:22]:
It was great. My husband said, like, all sweaty, and I’m like, oh, maybe just a quick shower first.

George Faller [00:03:29]:
Yeah. I mean, again, so many of us get into the rut at night in the dark. We’re tired, falling asleep, and that becomes, you know, sex night, right, where it’s just low levels of engagement. So, yes, wake your body up, get some light, go on a walk, get those muscles moving, get, you know, stimulation. That’s makes sense to me, doesn’t it?

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:03:54]:
I mean, to me, the whole idea. You come home from work. My husband and I, even sometimes we walk the neighborhood with a glass of wine. So we go for a walk, you know, we take the dogs and we, like, maybe chat with the neighbors, but we’re relaxing and we’re reconnecting and, you know, you don’t. You don’t have sex after a big dinner. You just come home and lay in bed, and then you get up and have. Have dinner. I don’t know if that would work for you, George.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:04:22]:
You’re always hungry.

George Faller [00:04:24]:
Well, the word, key word you said is relaxing. And that’s what I think about the summer. I think about relaxing, right? And we know great lovers are relaxed. So there’s. There’s a correlation between feeling relaxed than having better sex. So no wonder why this summer it starts to have a little uptick.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:04:42]:
It does. There is more sex during the summer, less complaints about sex, the research shows less complaints about sex during the summer. And I think that’s it. And, you know, vacation sex, right, has got to be the best sex out there, you know, because you don’t have your daily grind. You know, you’re just.

George Faller [00:05:02]:
It is away, got nothing to do. Let’s wake, sleep in, wake up, have a nice breakfast, you know, do a little workout, go on a walk, get some sun, come back, have a nap, full around. I mean, it’s. The whole day is just based on relaxing and indulging yourself.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:05:19]:
No wonder why exactly Exactly. My husband and I were on vacation and we had more sex than we’ve had in a long time. It was so great. Had honestly the best sexual experience I’ve ever had in my whole life on that vacation.

George Faller [00:05:36]:
Let’s move to another topic because I’m sure nobody wants to hear about the greatest sexual experience ever for Lori Watson.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:05:42]:
No, you can’t bring it up, Lori.

George Faller [00:05:45]:
And not share it with your audience. At least give us some.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:05:50]:
Actually, you know, it was in Amsterdam, George, and you texted me in the morning to save me a seat at the conference. And I’m like, be right there, George. Give me a few minutes. Right there. I was like, oh, okay, I’m coming.

George Faller [00:06:09]:
All right, I’m coming.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:06:12]:
I was like, okay, sure. Oh, funny.

George Faller [00:06:16]:
That’s pretty good.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:06:17]:
Yeah, I know, but vacation, we’re so relaxed and I just think there’s time. And I would say for many, many women, one of the big formulas is getting out of their home, being less stressed, you know, less obligation. Especially if you’re still in the child rearing ages and having unlimited sort of time in the day. You know, you just, you have this expanse. I was, I was talking with a client recently who said, you know, the best sex that she had was early in the dating experience when there were no expectations and they were going to spend all afternoon, all night, the next day together. You know, sex was absolutely going to happen. She was even going to initiate. But there wasn’t any pressure about it.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:07:06]:
There was no time constraint. You know, we gotta get it in because we gotta get a good night’s sleep. Cause we gotta get up and we gotta go tomorrow. It was like that kind of stress just squeezed out her desire.

George Faller [00:07:17]:
I know there are a lot of men listen and say, why the heck do we have to wait for summer for that? Can’t we build that into our everyday lives? Like, well, let’s prioritize it, let’s play it and let’s like, so it’s.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:07:30]:
No, but that’s, that’s so smart, George. It’s. How do we figure that out? How do we plan for that if we know that’s a turn on for our partner? I mean, maybe it doesn’t have to be a week of vacation, but maybe it can be. Yeah. Instead of, you know, spending money on an expensive dinner, we spend money on a hotel and we, we just go to the hotel. You don’t even have to stay the whole night in a hotel. You know, there’s no rule about that. You can just go to the hotel, bring drinks Bring snacks, laze around, go to the pool, hang out together in a new space, you know, and maybe leave your wife there to spend the night and you go home and take care of the kids or whatever.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:08:11]:
I. I really think that’s a good formula.

George Faller [00:08:14]:
Yeah. Well, I. When I think about vacation sex, and there’s certainly some novelty to it, right? When you’re more relaxed, you got more time, you’re in a different location, usually can have sex at a different time. So there’s. There’s some new variables thrown in. And I think most people, then that’s why they focus on. It’s the newness, it’s the novelty. I think what most people don’t pay attention to is it’s probably when the emotional bond is at its strongest, right? You can actually invest in each other.

George Faller [00:08:44]:
You can show interest. You’re spending quality time together. I mean, you’re holding hands like you’re doing things you might not typically do during, you know, outside that vacation. Right. So I think both people feel closer. They feel more emotionally attached to the other person. And I think that really does a lot for priming that pump.

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Dr. Laurie Watson [00:11:57]:
It does, absolutely. I, I think too on vacation. Another thing is we just have heightened senses during the summer. I mean, we’re swimming outside, we, we belong to an outdoor pool. And you know, it’s, you just go to the pool, you relax in the sun, you, or in the shade in my case, you know, and you, you swim. I know you go to the lake probably and swim. There’s. You kind of see more skin, right? Your partner’s in a bathing suit and that, that’s really sexy. And I, I mean, I know at the pool, like there’s just all these little casual touches, you know, where I’m touching my partner’s skin. You know, maybe he comes by me, brushes me and you know, I love my partner’s arms. And you know, it’s just like, it’s just kind of sensual.

George Faller [00:12:33]:
The whole thing might need a little break. Laurie’s getting turned on here.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:12:38]:
She’s. Yeah.

George Faller [00:12:40]:
Just thinking about touching those arms.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:12:43]:
Yeah, just the hair on his arms and his warm skin. Oof. You’re right. I need a break. But you know that you don’t necessarily have that casual skin on skin contact, right? Because he’s shirtless and I’m in a bathing suit. And you just, it’s just natural. But it feels so good and it’s so sensual.

George Faller [00:13:06]:
I mean, what’s so cool about a pool? You’re just hanging out, you don’t really have an agenda. You’re just shooting a breeze. You can tell the person’s interested, Right. If it’s just the two of you, you got a couple of friends. I mean, those levels of engagement go up. That’s why I Never really so explicitly recognized how the emotional bond gets stronger in these moments because you are connected. Like you said, you’re in this pool, you’re touching each other, you’re in the sun, you’re laughing, you’re playing. All these things are kind of setting the stage right.

George Faller [00:13:43]:
This is the foreplay towards the sexual act. This is getting a body awake and alive and engaged in a hot, warmed up. I mean, it’s some good stuff happening. No wonder why we have more sex in the summer.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:13:55]:
Yeah, good.

George Faller [00:13:56]:
I want to move to San Diego. Why am I living here in New York?

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:14:00]:
Yeah, you need to go to San Diego.

George Faller [00:14:04]:
I’m going there next week, so.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:14:06]:
Oh, nice.

George Faller [00:14:10]:
Here he comes.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:14:13]:
That’ll be good. George will come back happy. Come back, happy.

George Faller [00:14:18]:
Hopefully I will come anyway. Multiple times.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:14:24]:
We can’t talk about sex without innuendo. That is what makes talking about sex fun. Also, you know, this is crazy, but I think we should come back and just talk about our summer experiences and give people a few questions that they can ask their partner to deepen that emotional connection and kind of hint around a little bit about their sexual connection too. What do you think?

George Faller [00:14:49]:
Spice it up, baby.

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Dr. Laurie Watson [00:17:16]:
Questions to ask your partner this summer.I mean, probably in my life, if I think about my teenage years and young adulthood, it’s almost marked by summer, you know, the school year. Yeah, there were things that happened, but the summer is where it all happened, right? That was when the. The boy I liked came home from college and I was all excited to see him. Or summer love, you know, that was the time I started dating, was in the summer. I. I remember my first date. My first date was with these boys. Me and my girlfriend, my best girlfriend went on a double date with these guys who we knew really, really well.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:17:54]:
They were older than us. They were like four years older. They were college men. And I was in high school. And suddenly, I mean, I had talked to them, flirted with them for years because I’d known them a long time. But on the date, I was so nervous, George. I did not say one word. I mean, literally did not say one word.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:18:16]:
I just froze. I was. I was just so nervous. And they were teasing me. They’re like, hey, Lori, you know, like, listen up. You know, what’s. But I could. It was just the whole thing.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:18:28]:
My very first date, I remember I bought an outfit, kind of like this T shirt with a peasant skirt. And I was so anxious. And we went to the beach. And I was. I lived in Southern California. We went to the beach. And my brothers were teasing me, you know, just like, oh, the beach. They’re taking you to the beach.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:18:46]:
You know what that means? And I’m like, I really don’t know what that means, you know, But I didn’t want to say. I didn’t know what. I kind of got the implication and, oh, I was just so nervous. And finally we actually did go onto the beach and the guy I was with, we. We separated as couples and we went on this bluff and then suddenly I was like able to talk and I was relaxed because I knew him and you know, we could just chat. It was, it was fun, sort of fun, but the most nerve wracking and probably the most summery memory that I ever have. I still remember the night, the night air, it was warm, you know, on the bluffs of Laguna Beach. You probably know where that is too.

George Faller [00:19:29]:
Yeah, yeah. I remember my summers. I grew up in New York City in a kind of tough little neighborhood. And my parents had a trailer in Pennsylvania. Right. So every summer you’d get out of the city and go to this trailer place with. Had these big pools and hundreds of kids would just hang out with each other all day. They were the longest days and they never ended.

George Faller [00:19:52]:
And they were just amazing. Just the fun that you had. And every year people would change. You’d come back and look forward to the excitement of that. But yeah, it’s a lot of what we’re talking about here, just that the summer fun.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:20:09]:
Summer fun. And I love what you said. The days never ended. Right. I mean, that’s how it was in summer. At least for me too. Just endless days.

George Faller [00:20:19]:
Yeah, you get the grind of work all the time. It’s like, you know, we go on vacation. It’s like they’re long days, they’re beautiful days. You do so much and you’re always eating and you’re always taking naps and sleeping in. And yet you have all this time to see things and do things. It’s like they’re really fabulous days. Why I love traveling.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:20:39]:
Absolutely any. So I would also ask people what was like your best summer love memory? I think mine was probably also ironically, my first date with my husband. We also went to the beach. We went to a Chinese restaurant and walked on the beach afterwards. And again, I was like, quiet. I just, I just got anxious. And I had been on, I had been dating quite a bit by that time, but I think I was so crazy about him. And he and I had had hours of conversation because our roommates, our roommates were dating each other.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:21:13]:
So we had been tossed together a lot. But I mean, I remember being really quiet, but it was so romantic, you know, just this dinner out, this walk on the beach. Ah, Best. Best memory ever.

George Faller [00:21:28]:
Well, we think about spicing it up and increasing those levels of engagement. I think it’s always helpful to use our acronym best sex talk Glory. You know, just to think intentionally with your partner. How could you kind of talk about things just to get more engagement? So we want to rattle through it quick.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:21:53]:
Okay. Yeah, tell us. But don’t think you’re getting out of telling us your best summer love memory, because you got to tell us.

George Faller [00:22:00]:
That’ll be our next. Next episode. No, I want to get my wife jealous. There’s so many of them, Lori, I don’t know where to start.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:22:09]:
Okay, Best sex acronym Them. George, quick.

George Faller [00:22:13]:
Yes, well, we got plenty of time. No, but just that best sex talk. You know, the be. Can you be more physical? Bring the body into it? I think a lot of people leave this out. You know, there are a lot of different things I love, as Laurie says. Can you go on a walk? Can you touch each other in a pool? Like massages? And it seems like every vacation we do a massage. I mean, a foot massage does wonders for you. I mean, there’s so many things we could do in our bodies.

George Faller [00:22:38]:
Going for a swim, the sun, all that physicality is so important.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:22:44]:
Yeah. Really engaging the body and enjoying that.

George Faller [00:22:49]:
Yeah. The ed. Emotions. We keep talking about the heart and the romance and being more intentional, holding each other’s hands, look at each other. That stuff just gets us so much more in the mood.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:23:01]:
Yeah.

George Faller [00:23:01]:
It’s not just women. I mean, I was. I told my wife the other night, I’m like, I. I like sex that’s more connected, that’s more emotional. Like, I. You know, when we’re talking about the kids and we’re frustrated, like, I’m not really in a mood. I don’t know if I’m changing with Ty, but, like, I like. I like being in a positive place, and it just kind of, you know, that I think it’s important.

George Faller [00:23:20]:
A lot of men don’t recognize, like, the emotions being online in the right way are important for us too.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:23:26]:
Yeah, absolutely. I love that about you. I teach you about that. But you do say that quite a bit, that you need romance, too.

George Faller [00:23:34]:
Yeah, in smaller doses.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:23:36]:
But it’s smaller doses.

George Faller [00:23:40]:
You know, the. Yes, just the spiritual. I think there’s something about being part of something bigger than yourself that’s more likely to happen in the summer. Like every time. Laura, you talk about these great episodes. You could just feel the surrendering that happens and the kind of the expansion that happens, and you just can even all these years later, you can feel the gratitude. You can feel the blessing in that. I just think it’s nice to think about that more often.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:24:08]:
I agree. I. I love sitting on the beach at sunset and listening to the waves. Not even talking.

George Faller [00:24:17]:
Yeah.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:24:17]:
You know, just sitting there and sort of in this vastness and realizing, you know, I’m so small in this universe, but it’s so wondrous and amazing. Rhythmic. Okay. I could go on and on.

George Faller [00:24:35]:
Yeah. Starts, you know, the tease, the thinking, erotic brain. I mean, how do you bring more? You know, my wife and I are reading Emily Nagoski’s new book, and just the idea of talking about a chapter can get me more aroused. What is your erotic blueprint? What is your like as we start asking each other these questions just to be more intentional about talking about sex? That starts to kind of get us more positioned in that area.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:25:08]:
Yeah. Which is why we’re offering people questions. Right. So that they can start thinking about romance and sex and connection, and they get their brain online. And, of course, if our brain is online, oftentimes that leads to our bodies coming online and more interest. Yes, absolutely.

George Faller [00:25:27]:
And you’ll have access to this on our website. The best sex talk, the s is for the sexual cycle. Can you just kind of understand you probably have different. One initiates more, one’s more responsive. Can you appreciate each other’s styles instead of always getting mad at it? Can you create a positive cycle where you’re a team work. Right. You both bring something important to this exchange, and couples that appreciate that just do better. Yeah, absolutely.

George Faller [00:25:54]:
The e Laurie’s been talking a lot about just exploring the history. Can you kind of listen to things that have really worked? Can you kind of remind your body? We know the body keeps score. It always remembers things. We could talk about me going to the trailer park, you know, 40 years ago. My body can feel the excitement of that today. Right. Why not bring some of that into the bedroom in safe ways that, you know, don’t threaten each other. The external factors adding novelty in, you know, bringing that romantic book that you’re reading at the beach or bringing.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:26:28]:
The vibrator to the beach.

George Faller [00:26:30]:
Vibrator. Bringing that glass of wine.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:26:32]:
My husband always packs the vibrator. I’m like, you know, we’re at the airport. I’m like, did you. And he’s like, I did.

George Faller [00:26:37]:
I got it, I got it, I got it. Man doesn’t leave home without his tools.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:26:42]:
So that’s right.

George Faller [00:26:45]:
And the talk to t is, you know, do you like talking more explicitly about sex or you don’t like it, or, you know, how do couples just intentionally recognize the importance of that?

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:27:01]:
How do they tell each other what they like? You know, one of the things that I think is common in the couples that I see is they. They really don’t talk about kind of what is happening in the bedroom. I asked a couple once, okay, so you have a lot of simultaneous orgasms. That’s awesome. That means he knows where your clitoris is. And he said, yes. And at the same time, she said, no, no. You know, and what was wonderful is they were in a really safe place.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:27:37]:
And he was really curious. He’s like, I don’t. Oh, I want to understand this. You know, I mean, he was wide open. He was not offended by that. His heart was just nice open to her. And she was able to talk about it a little bit with my encouragement, because that was not something she talked about. But talking about sex, you know, if we can talk explicitly with each other, we can make it so much better.

George Faller [00:28:00]:
Yep. That brings us to the A. I’m glad Lori shared that. You know, the amount of orgasms, you have to actually talk about your orgasms. You know, what works, what doesn’t work, give each other feedback. You just can’t hope and guess, like, what’s so wrong about saying, hey, did you have an orgasm? Was that a good one? Was that a bad one? Did anything we could do differently? Like, couples that can’t talk about orgasms? Like, that’s not the whole point of sex, but it’s helpful. Right? We know orgasms reinforce the likelihood. You want to have sex if you want to keep strong desire, if you want to have.

George Faller [00:28:34]:
If pleasure is the measure. Orgasms are a part of that. Right? So we just want to see if that’s on target or not on target.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:28:40]:
Yeah, absolutely. I think, you know, orgasm is the big physiological reward. And, you know, maybe not every single time do you have to have an orgasm. You can have great sex without it. But I would say, overall, you know, you gotta have orgasms. And we’re going to talk about that next week, George. So stay tuned, y’all.

George Faller [00:29:03]:
Last two, listen up. Next week, the L for laughter. I mean, hey, listen, This, I think, is one of the biggest factors of vacation sex, right? To be more playful, to kind of laugh with each other, to be goofy and silly and not be so serious and uptight. And, you know, my wife always says, you always got an agenda. You’re always, you know, impatient. You’re going to the next Thing? Well, it’s. I’m a lot less. So it’s nice to go on a walk where I have nowhere to go.

George Faller [00:29:28]:
You know, it’s. It’s. But setting that environment of playfulness, I don’t think enough couples can bring that in. And that. That is what is so, so important. And the last one, the K, is for kissing. I mean, if you did a study, I’d almost guarantee the kissing rates increase on vacation or during the summer. You have more time.

George Faller [00:29:48]:
You know, it’s a lot easier when you’re in that pool. Your husband walks by, you just reach over, you give him a quick kiss. Like these things matter. Kissing matters for sex and couples that are increasing it. These are all things for you just to talk about, hey, do we kiss enough? Do we, you know, how physical are we? You know, do we laugh enough? Do we bring in that vibrator? There’s a lot to talk about. You just need. Put it on the table.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:30:13]:
Put it on the table. Do it on the table. Oh, do it on the picnic table. In private areas. Private. Private areas. Yeah. Definitely more outdoor sex during summer, right? Have you ever had outdoor sex, George?

George Faller [00:30:29]:
I have, but I don’t like sand. It’s. A little can hurt sometimes, so I thought it was more romantic than it turned out to be. Okay, well, sandpaper sex.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:30:43]:
Who doesn’t want that sandpaper sex? Ooh, icky. Yeah, no, definitely not. Okay, well, thanks for listening. I hope you all feel hot after this episode.

George Faller [00:30:56]:
I hope you increase the sum of lovin’so.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:31:00]:
Some of you are interested in our work. We wanna tell you where we are, what we’re doing. First thing is our couples retreat coming up in October. Right, George?

George Faller [00:31:08]:
October 4th. Yes. Online. This is a chance to just spend a little time with your partner. We guarantee you’re gonna kind of come out of that training with more things to talk about sexually.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:31:20]:
Yep. And we’ve got an early bird special right now, so take us up on it and join us for a day of talking about sex.

George Faller [00:31:27]:
And for therapists, we have two trainings coming up. We have one in September 18 to 20 in Las Vegas, where Lori and I will just be kind of brainstorming and really pushing the leading edges of kind of eft and the sexual cycle. We’re excited about that. And then in January 23rd to 25th, we’re coming to Nashville in person to do three days of really kind of breaking down this process. And again, I think this should be mandatory for all therapists to just kind of have more confidence in knowing what to do and work with the sexual cycle.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:31:59]:
Yeah, we’ve already had lots of signups for that. By the way, George, people are also taking advantage of that early bird special. You know, we want supervisors to come. We’re giving half off to the supervisors. So please join us so that we can kind of get on the same page and understand and develop EFT further. There’s going to be two days of lecture and exercises and then a day maybe with a live and, you know, working on your tapes and your stuck places. And we’re going to go down to the Honky Tonk and have dinner together and have some fun.

George Faller [00:32:33]:
Have some fun.

Dr. Laurie Watson [00:32:34]:
Have fun. Yeehaw.

George Faller [00:32:35]:
Yeehaw. And for all you listeners, again, if you have a community, you want Laurie and I to come out and give a specialized training on sex. And again, I think this is so important for anybody seeing couples. Then, you know, reach out to us and let’s continue to spread this message. Yeehaw. Call in your questions to the foreplay question. Voicemail. Dial 833 my foreplay that that’s 833 my the number four play and we’ll use the questions for our mailbag episodes.

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